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Online Dating in
today's world has changed dramatically in the last half century. The
subject of sex, and even the act itself, has become more recognized
as an acceptable part of Online Dating in today's world.
In the 1950's and early 1960's the subject of sex was rarely discussed
or considered in such an open manner, on a date, as it is today. This
is not to say that sex, or the subject of sex, has never made an 'appearance'
on a date. On the contrary, sex, on many occasions, has indeed 'inserted'
itself into a date. The difference between then and now is that those
occurrences were the exception, rather than the rule. Sometimes it seems
that Online Dating is there for that very purpose.
For the broad majority of daters in those times, the subject of sex
was kept in the background. Sex was the unspoken of 'elephant' in the
room. As one might expect, in a situation where two healthy young members
of the opposite sex are sharing close quarters, there was always an
undercurrent of sexual electricity in the air. It just was not openly,
or crassly, acknowledged by the Online Dating couple.
Most of the dates back then, followed along similar lines. During the
date, a guy could make suggestive jokes and/or comments, and sometimes,
playfully hug and grab the girl, but he knew where to draw the line
- and had enough class not to cross it. A girl flirted and looked knowingly
at her date, and depending on the circumstances, might allow a certain
degree of superficial physical contact. Still, she wouldn't go so far
as to put herself into a compromising situation that she couldn't get
out of.
Most dates culminated in a 'good night kiss'. Some went further, and
included 'heavy petting', which included tongue kissing, fondling, etc.
- but no 'skin' came out into the open. Finally, a smaller group included
those who went 'all the way'; but as previously mentioned, this group
was the exception, rather than the rule. It was rare that a Online Dating
couple would have sex during the early stages of 'courtship'.
In today's world of Online Dating, sex has taken a much more prominent role. In Onlne Dating, sex is openly discussed and talked about by both daters. There's little embarrassment in answering questions about one's past sexual experience, one's likes or dislikes, or even one's level of sexual expertise. Questions of this nature are neither embarrassing to the participants, nor, thought of to be intruding upon one's personal and private business.
In fact, if the subject of sex isn't brought up, the dater is often
thought of as boring or inexperienced, rather than respectful of one's
privacy.
Even more disturbing is the number of people that are trying Online
Dating for the first time and engage in sex after knowing one another
for mere hours. Many guys come right out and ask their date if they
have ever had a 'one night stand', and/or if they would be interested
in having a 'one night stand'. Few girls are insulted by this line of
questioning, and answer as if they were at a job interview. Worse still,
some girls consider the request, and some even agree to it.
When it comes to sex, it seems as though the thought process of some
of these young women has become slightly warped. Point in fact, an increasing
number of young women today insist that a certain type of sex, which
I will not describe here, is not, in fact, sex. They say sex only occurs
when two people lay together and have sexual intercourse. They say that
any other sex act isn't a sex act at all, and such acts are no worse
than kissing. With this type of thinking, it's plain to see how easy
it is for unscrupulous males to exploit these naive and ill-informed
females.
The level of self-respect and self-control, in many of today's Online
Dating couples, seems to have declined in direct ratio to the increase
of their unabashed and unbridled lust.
It would be wise, for the daters of today, to keep in mind that while
it cannot be denied that having sex is a pleasurable experience, it
can also be a costly one. The act of sex carries consequences and responsibilities
that are frequently underestimated, and often overlooked.
Pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, family crisis, and a loss
of standing in one's community are just some of the consequences of
an 'uncontrolled libido'. Sexual choices made by online dating must
be fashioned with foresight, self-control, and a willingness to accept
responsibility for one's actions.